predestination
many things in this world find neither an answer nor a proper explanation. for example, why should two become a couple among the billions of people on earth? why don't they love each other even though they live together everyday, and yet one of them falls in love with someone else at the first sight? why do the members of a family quarrel daily but still stay unhappily together? why can't they get married in spite of the fact that they are a perfect match to each other? why should one toil so much for the other? why should the love-infatuated always be deserted by the heartless?.....
people remain puzzled in spite of their great effort to understand the endless questions, so they invented the all-embracing word---“predestination”. in order to be more precise, different combinations were derived from it: love predestination, sinful predestination, evil predestination, and kind predestination etc., hence we have the sayings like: “predestination will definitely bring you together despite the great distance while without predestination, you'll never know each other even though you are standing fact to face” “a distant couple is tied up with the thread of predestination” and even the phrases and expressions like “the god of marriage”, “predestination without luck”, “luck without predestination”, “coming across each other is a kind of predestination”, “enemies are bound to meet on a narrow road”, “they shall not marry each other unless they are predestined lovers”. if people still can not find answers, they turn to “reincarnation” for help. lin daiyu is always in tears just for repaying for the water jia baoyu had given her when she was a plant in her previous life in a dream of the red mansions .
in fact, the so-called “predestination” is often a kind of coincidence or chance encounter, even a kind of accident. if you don't meet this person, you'll surely meet some one else. but people insist on adding some colors of emotions or superstition, thus generating various religious factions, the main theories of which are no more than that of “reincarnation”, “heaven and hell” and “the ever-lasting soul” etc.
but does anyone know anything about his previous life or his after life? what could he do even if he knew them? if he can't grasp the present life, what's the benefit of commenting on the visionary after life? giving up today is the same as giving up tomorrow, for they are closely connected. how absurd it is to work like the horse or cattle in the present life in order to be above others in the next life.
have you ever seen emperor qinshihuang reincarnate? have you ever heard of emperor wudi of the han dynasty going into another life? where is now monk xuanzang of the tang dynasty (what we know is the big wild goose pagoda)? where is the monkey king (the flower and fruit mountain does exist, though)? and where can we find those great emperors such as yao , shun yu and the influential philosophers like confucius, laozi and zhuangzi?
how many heavens do we find? are they also divided into the oriental and the occidental world? is god a chinese or westerner? which is the greatest religion among buddhism, daoism, christianity, catholicity and islamism? all religions advocate doing good deeds and not killing, but why do they keep contending against each other, even fighting and killing among themselves? is the paradise the same one in all religions? there's only one sun in the sky, and there should be only one emperor in a country, but do all religions believe in the same god, or do they have different gods of their own? if all of us expected god's help, wouldn't god be too busy and too tired?
does god respect science? if not, why does he allow computers and telecommunications to run rampant? if it is god who created human beings, then doesn't he feel out of control of what the human being are doing now (the nuclear weapons and bio-chemical weapons, etc.)?
we human beings have an origin, and is it the same with god? does god get married? is god hereditary, or is it the same ever-lasting one?
we have all those questions but who can answer them?.
predestination needs us to strive for; friendship needs us to maintain; good will needs us to treasure and future needs us to create. there is no savior, nor goddess of mercy who once saved people in the past but cannot do anything to help the people at the present. the world is developing too fast.
people have to work together and associate with each other. talking about predestination, it's just a kind of explanation about what has happened, and i'm afraid nobody can predict it before hand. from ancient times till the 1980' s, once getting married, the couple had to stick to each other for their whole life. can we say it is because of their life-long predestination? it is just because of the marriage system. in the western countries, life-long marriage is rare. can we sa
y it is because their predestination makes it so? it is actually the result of human nature. the color of love could be attached to predestination, but not the color of superstition.
predestination is a lovely word which we should treasure and respect. in the present world, we should always follow the win-win or multi-win policy, instead of being single-handed. in order to achieve success, we must gain mass support instead of indulging in self-admiration. we might as well call the communication, the cooperation, the common concerns and the common aspirations of human beings “predestination”.
尊敬的各位領導，老師，同學們：
大家好！
今天我演講的題目是《心態》。
首先，先請大家聽一個故事。
弗洛姆是美國一位著名的心理學家。一天，幾個學生向他請教：心態會對一個人產生什麼樣的影響？
他微微一笑，什麼也不說，就把他們帶到一間黑暗的房間裡。在他的引導下，學生們很快就穿過了這間伸手不見五指的神秘房間。接著，弗洛姆打開房間裡的一盞燈，在這昏黃如燭的燈光下，學生們才看清房間的布置，不禁嚇出一身冷汗。原來，這間房子的地面就是一個很深很大的水池，池子裡蠕動著各種毒蛇，包括一條大蟒蛇和三條眼鏡蛇，有好幾條毒蛇正高高昂著頭，朝他們吐著舌頭。就在這池子的上方，搭著一座很窄的木橋，他們剛才就是從那座木橋上走過來的。
弗洛姆看著他們，問：“現在，你們還願意再次走過這座橋嗎？”
大家你看看我，我看看你，都不做聲。
過了片刻，終於有三個學生猶猶豫豫的站了出來。其中一個學生一上去，就異常小心地挪動著雙腳，速度比第一次慢了好多倍；另一個學生戰戰兢兢的站在小木橋上，身子不由自主地顫抖著，才走到一半就挺不住了；第三個學生乾脆彎下身來，慢慢地趴在小木橋上爬了過去。
“啪”，弗洛姆又打開了房內另外幾盞燈，強烈的燈光一下子把整個房間照耀得如同白晝。學生們揉揉眼睛再仔細看，才發現在小木橋的下方裝著一道安全網，只是因為網線的顏色極黯淡，他們剛才都沒有看出來。弗洛姆大聲地問：“你們當中還有誰願意現在就通過這座小橋？”
大家現在都不怕了，幾個學生一個接一個走過了木橋。只有一個人不敢走。“怎么回事？”弗洛姆問道。
“這張安全網的質量可靠嗎”一個學生心有餘悸地問。
弗洛姆笑了：“我可以解答你們的疑問了，這座橋本來不難走，可是橋下的毒蛇對你們造成了心理威懾，於是，你們就失去了平靜的心態，亂了方寸，慌了手腳，表現出各種程度的膽怯，可見心態對行為有著多么重要的影響。”
這個故事很好地告訴我們一個道理：心態對一個人具有巨大的影響力。
由於心態能左右一個人的一切，所以，無論情況好壞，都要抱著積極的心態，莫讓沮喪取代希望。心態是我們命運的控制塔，事實上，它是我們唯一能掌握的東西。只有我們建立起正確、積極的人生觀、價值觀，以積極、健康、樂觀的心態對待生活，才能獲得健全而高品質的生活。
我們都知道，一個人的心態能影響甚至決定自己的命運。因此，我們應當認認真真走好自己腳下的路。有些同學看問題有些偏激，看到自己某一方面不如別人，就認為自己樣樣不如別人。一個人做一件事前，總在想我可能要失敗，那他真的很容易就失敗。一個連自己都不相信的人，怎么讓別人相信呢？
良好的心態是無價的，如果你能擁有一個良好的心態，你就能獲得你想要的一切。因為良好的心態能讓你樹立起必勝的信念，而信念會是你充滿前進的動力。它可以改變你險惡的現狀，帶來圓滿的結果。不要因為我們的心態而使我們自己成為一個失敗者。要知道，成功永遠屬於那些抱有積極心態並付諸於行動的人。如果我們想改變自己的世界，首先就應該改變自己的心態。心態是正確的，我們的世界也會是正確的。保持良好心態者能夠堅強，能夠寬容，能夠鍥而不捨，最終會走在時代的前面。一個人若是一生都能持有良好的心態，那么，他人生的路就會越走越寬，生命的景色就會越來越美，生命的價值就會越來越大。
所以我想說，專心於路，路就不會多難走；專心於事，事就不會太難做。心態是人生命運的底牌。
我的演講完了，謝謝
Predestination
many things in this world find neither an answer nor a proper explanation. for example, why should two become a couple among the billions of people on earth? why don't they love each other even though they live together everyday, and yet one of them falls in love with someone else at the first sight? why do the members of a family quarrel daily but still stay unhappily together? why can't they get married in spite of the fact that they are a perfect match to each other? why should one toil so much for the other? why should the love-infatuated always be deserted by the heartless?.....
people remain puzzled in spite of their great effort to understand the endless questions, so they invented the all-embracing word---“predestination”. in order to be more precise, different combinations were derived from it: love predestination, sinful predestination, evil predestination, and kind predestination etc., hence we have the sayings like: “predestination will definitely bring you together despite the great distance while without predestination, you'll never know each other even though you are standing fact to face” “a distant couple is tied up with the thread of predestination” and even the phrases and expressions like “the god of marriage”, “predestination without luck”, “luck without predestination”, “coming across each other is a kind of predestination”, “enemies are bound to meet on a narrow road”, “they shall not marry each other unless they are predestined lovers”. if people still can not find answers, they turn to “reincarnation” for help. lin daiyu is always in tears just for repaying for the water jia baoyu had given her when she was a plant in her previous life in a dream of the red mansions .
in fact, the so-called “predestination” is often a kind of coincidence or chance encounter, even a kind of accident. if you don't meet this person, you'll surely meet some one else. but people insist on adding some colors of emotions or superstition, thus generating various religious factions, the main theories of which are no more than that of “reincarnation”, “heaven and hell” and “the ever-lasting soul” etc.
but does anyone know anything about his previous life or his after life? what could he do even if he knew them? if he can't grasp the present life, what's the benefit of commenting on the visionary after life? giving up today is the same as giving up tomorrow, for they are closely connected. how absurd it is to work like the horse or cattle in the present life in order to be above others in the next life.
have you ever seen emperor qinshihuang reincarnate? have you ever heard of emperor wudi of the han dynasty going into another life? where is now monk xuanzang of the tang dynasty (what we know is the big wild goose pagoda)? where is the monkey king (the flower and fruit mountain does exist, though)? and where can we find those great emperors such as yao , shun yu and the influential philosophers like confucius, laozi and zhuangzi?
how many heavens do we find? are they also divided into the oriental and the occidental world? is god a chinese or westerner? which is the greatest religion among buddhism, daoism, christianity, catholicity and islamism? all religions advocate doing good deeds and not killing, but why do they keep contending against each other, even fighting and killing among themselves? is the paradise the same one in all religions? there's only one sun in the sky, and there should be only one emperor in a country, but do all religions believe in the same god, or do they have different gods of their own? if all of us expected god's help, wouldn't god be too busy and too tired?
does god respect science? if not, why does he allow computers and telecommunications to run rampant? if it is god who created human beings, then doesn't he feel out of control of what the human being are doing now (the nuclear weapons and bio-chemical weapons, etc.)?
we human beings have an origin, and is it the same with god? does god get married? is god hereditary, or is it the same ever-lasting one?
we have all those questions but who can answer them?.
predestination needs us to strive for; friendship needs us to maintain; good will needs us to treasure and future needs us to create. there is no savior, nor goddess of mercy who once saved people in the past but cannot do anything to help the people at the present. the world is developing too fast.
people have to work together and associate with each other. talking about predestination, it's just a kind of explanation about what has happened, and i'm afraid nobody can predict it before hand. from ancient times till the 1980' s, once getting married, the couple had to stick to each other for their whole life. can we say it is because of their life-long predestination? it is just because of the marriage system. in the western countries, life-long marriage is rare. can we sa
y it is because their predestination makes it so? it is actually the result of human nature. the color of love could be attached to predestination, but not the color of superstition.
predestination is a lovely word which we should treasure and respect. in the present world, we should always follow the win-win or multi-win policy, instead of being single-handed. in order to achieve success, we must gain mass support instead of indulging in self-admiration. we might as well call the communication, the cooperation, the common concerns and the common aspirations of human beings “predestination”.