There has long been a view among Chinese that "Spare the rod, spoil the child". How did this point form and spread through China's long history may cause my curiosity. However,what really interests me is whether this viewpoint is still worthy of adoption in our modern society.
For one thing, such "rod using" education mode has no possibility of achieving the goal of education:the forming of a child's judgment on right and wrong as well as the developing of a child's self-control ability. Children are always inquisitive and destructive, tearing up books, throwing down vases and etc,which will make you feel rather angry. Punish them or explain to them, you are faced up with a choice. In fact, whichever method you choose, it will be effective at that time. The only difference is that the former one works on children's fear of penalty and the latter one on their realization of mistakes. Fears disappearing quickly, children are likely to repeat their wrong activities if you only punish them. Once learning why they are wrong and knowing what is allowed and what is banned, the children may avoid making the same mistakes in the future. And little by little,children's judging ability will be developed. So in the long run,pointing out the mistakes and what is permitted seem more wise.
Similarly, such "penalty emphasizing" education mode,which somewhat seems a bit violent, harms children's growth and the forming of their characters. "Many adults' mental diseases have close relationship with their childhood's penalty", psychiatrists say on a large number of researches. Furthermore,such education mode may result in children's rebellious temperaments or too timid and weak characters. Additionally, this mode will widen the gap between two generations. With all these unexpected results, we would better think deeply over this education mode.
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Making friends, in some sense, resembles enjoying music. I never choose bright music whenever I am blue, because the sentimental melody soothes my tense nerve and assures me that I am understood and cared and not alone in this toughest time, and because I will feel strengthened when someone can grieve at my grief.
一直有一個觀點在中國,“閒了棍子,慣了孩子”。怎么這個點形式和傳播中國悠久的歷史可能會引起我的好奇心。然而,真正讓我感興趣的是這個觀點是否仍然是值得採用的在我們的現代社會。
首先,這種“桿使用“教育模式不可能實現教育的目標:形成孩子的判斷對與錯以及孩子的自我控制能力的發展。孩子們總是好奇和破壞性,撕毀書籍,扔花瓶等,這將使你感到相當憤怒。懲罰他們或者向他們解釋,你面臨了一個選擇。事實上,不管選擇哪一種方法,這將是有效的。唯一的區別在於,前者適用於一個孩子害怕處罰,後者一個實現的錯誤。恐懼迅速消失,孩子們可能會重複錯誤的活動如果你只懲罰他們。一旦學習他們為什麼是錯的,知道什麼是允許的,什麼是被禁止的,孩子們可能會避免犯同樣的錯誤在未來。一點點,發展孩子的判斷能力。所以從長遠來看,指出錯誤並允許更明智。
同樣,這樣的“點球強調“教育模式,這似乎有點暴力,傷害兒童的成長和形成的字元。“許多成年人的心理疾病有密切的關係與他們的童年的懲罰”,精神病學家說,在大量的研究。此外,這樣的教育方式會導致孩子的叛逆性格或太膽小和軟弱的字元。此外,這種模式將擴大兩代人之間的差距。與所有這些意想不到的結果,我們將對這種教育模式更好的思考。
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交朋友,在某種意義上,就像享受音樂。我從來沒有選擇明亮的音樂當我藍色,因為傷感鏇律舒緩緊張的神經,向我保證我理解和關心,而不是獨自在這個艱難的時間,因為我感覺加強當有人可以在我的悲傷悲傷。