maybe you can't help wondering, "what makes that ordinary woman so extraordinary?" it is nothing else but her inner beauty, her true devotion of love without any thought of rewarding. what a sharp contrast there is between the great woman and the selfish singer]
so,to answer the question "what is real beauty?", i declare definitely,it is the beauty lying in one's heart of hearts and embodied in his actions and deeds,that is,the inner heauty!
learn how to say no
we've all been taught that we should help people. it is the right thing to do and will make us popular with others. it may even win us favors in return. however, we must be realistic. we can't say yes to every request. if we did, we would fail or go crazy for sure. sometimes we simply don't have the time to help. in this case, we must know how to say no politely.
when we need to say no, here is one method we can try. first, we should tell the truth. if we really can't do something, we should just say so. second, we should remember to refuse requests politely. we must communicate clearly, but must also be sincere and sympathetic. a true friend will understand. finally, we must not feel guilty about saying no. sometimes refusing others is the right thing to do. it can save ourselves, and them, a lot of trouble. in short, we cannot please everyone all the time. refusing favors is a part of life.
學習如何說不
我們都被教導說，我們應該要幫助別人。這是應該做的事，而且這樣做會使我們受人歡迎。它甚至會為我們贏得一些回報。但是，我們必須要實際一點。我們不能答應每一個要求。如果我們這么做，我們就一定會失敗或發瘋。有時候我們確實沒有時間去幫忙。既然如此，我們就必須知道如何有禮貌地說不。
當我們需要說不的時候，有個辦法我們可以試試。首先，我們應該要說實話。假如我們真的辦不到某件事，我們就應該說不。第二，我們應該記得要客氣地拒絕對方的要求。我們必須清楚地表達，但態度也必須真誠並且表示同情。一個真正的朋友會諒解的。最後，我們不必為了說不而覺得有罪惡感。有時候拒絕別人才是我們應該做的事。它可以替我們自己和別人，都省下許多麻煩。總而言之，我們無法一直取悅每個人。拒絕請求是人生的一部分。
i regain confidence
by li jun (李軍青島海洋大學)
(XX年11月下旬，在上海舉行的第七屆“21世紀·愛立信杯”英語演講比賽華東地區比賽中獲得第一名)
專家點評:本演講語言較流暢，從具體事件人手，將主題升華，催人奮進。
i received a devastating blow to my self-confidence in the first interview of my college years. i applied to be a host in our student acting troupe and felt confident that i would be accepted. but one of the panel members told me: "you seem inadequate and you are a little vertically-challenged." my life has never been the same since. i used bigger heels to complement my height and psychological maneuvers and tricks to hide my lack of confidence. but no matter how hard i tried to look the part, there was still something missing.
as president of english club, i organized the rehearsal of snow white for an english party. unfortunately, we could not find an actor to be the last dwarf. it had to be someone who was humorous by nature and fluent in english. suddenly, all eyes turned to me, and i knew i would have to be the dwarf. to my great surprise and delight, once on stage, i was totally absorbed in the performance and my humorous nature was put to full use. as the dwarf, i was a big hit.
yes, each of us is only one among millions of others, but each of us is an individual and each of us is unique. cultivating our individuality will transform our lives, making of them a kaleidoscope of new colors and textures.